“And the LORD God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
The first couple on the earth, Adam and Eve, were a union created by God himself. To me, they are a representation of what a married couple should be like.
It’s interesting that what we learn about Adam and Eve from the scriptures suggests that they had a very close relationship. The scriptures suggested that they worked together, that they experienced joy and sorrow together, and that they raised their family together.
When God said that Eve would be ‘an help meet’ for Adam, I don’t think He meant that this was a one-sided affair, i.e. that Eve’s role or purpose in life would be to help Adam, and that Adam did not need to reciprocate. The scriptures and modern-day teachings don’t reflect this.
My understanding of what is meant by ‘an help meet’ is that Adam and Eve would be such a partnership that each would compliment the other. They would be able to help each other and that together, this new creation of husband and wife as one married couple, they would be more than what they would be as two separate individuals.
Eve would cherish Adam as she would herself, and Adam would also likewise cherish Eve.
This type of new union, the union of marriage, would bring about not only the fulfilment of the commandment to ‘multiply and replenish the earth’ but would also be the way that they would be able to achieve the highest level of happiness, joy and fulfilment.
That all might sound great theoretically, but does it work practically? I mean, does it work today with married couples in the twenty first century?
Over the years, my wife and I have put it to the test. We married in February 2014, and one of the reasons we chose each other was that we both had a strong faith in God and wanted to live a life devoted to becoming better disciples of Jesus Christ, and keeping His commandments.
Before we got married, we talked about what our family life would look like. We discussed what our roles and responsibilities would each be and how we would help each other. As a foundation for our decisions we used ‘The Family – A Proclamation to the World‘.
My wife and I support each other in our responsibilities and always look for ways to help and serve each other. We also involve our children. Our children understand that all the things that are required to make a family function properly – meals, cleaning, washing, maintenance, yard work, etc – are not the responsibility of just mum and dad. It is the responsibility of ALL family members.
We have found that applying these principles has helped us to have a happy marriage. I’ve also noticed that together we have been able to achieve much more than what we would have been able to achieve alone.
How do you and your spouse apply Genesis 2:18 in your life?